If someone asked me to summarise the Law of Attraction in a
phrase, I would say:
“listen to and be guided by your emotions”
Because within them lies the essential truth - if we relinquish
the judgement, the labelling and guilt about our emotions and
look through for what they are telling us.
Most of reading this live in cultures where our emotions are
often derided and our rational, logical, “problem solving skills” are applauded (I often wonder whether having problem solving ability leads you to create more problems in order to exercise that ability! Just a thought…….:.)
But our feelings about a given situation is the most reliable
indicator and a fantastic boon when it comes to decision making.
The only difficulty is that we don’t trust it. Or we strangle it
at birth.
Haven’t you noticed that the more reasons you create for
following a course of action, the more “logical” reason you give
is usually an indication that it’s not the right path. When
something is right for you then you usually just “know” it;
reasons become redundant.
You know when things look “good on paper”, but don’t mesh in your reality.
In tennis, the centre of the racket is called the Sweet Spot.
It is the area of the string bed that produces the best
combination of feel and power. It is the perfect connection
where the ball is hit most cleanly, most effectively; it
resonates more deeply and just feels right. It is the area of
the racket that tennis players aim for.
Hitting the ball outside the sweet spot often leads to mishits
and mistakes and you can really feel the dissonant vibrations
when you mishit a ball. You can often hear the jarring sound it
makes. And there’s a nice parallel when situations jar with us
too.
Whenever I’m unsure of whether to follow a course of action, I
ask myself: “Does it hit my sweet spot?”. Invariably the answer
is no, because asking the question itself reveals the answer. As such it is a useful internal barometer and shortcut.
Yet how many of us actually ask ourselves this kind of question?
Keep asking the question, heed your answer and keep following
your sweet spot and watch the quality of your life soar!
Julie Plenty helps creative people achieve their goals using the Law of Attraction and authentic and inspired goal setting. Read more articles on how to make the Law of Attraction work for you by visiting: http://lawofattraction.blogharbor.com
If you pay attention to your own mental thoughts and processes, you will soon become aware of the never-ending changes going on in your mind of one thought or idea to another in rapid succession. This can be in response to external suggestions or simply by your own particular habits of thinking that have developed over a period of time, usually by default. These thought habits are a result of the mind persistently doing those things that it has been set to do consciously or unconsciously many times over before. You will also learn that these changes are made without the slightest bit of effort made on your part.
All these thoughts in the mind are quite normal, occurring in the usual course of an average day. These thoughts and ideas represent the never-ending drama that is unfolding into your view of the world.
What if we don’t like some of these sounds and pictures?
If we are not too happy with some of the thoughts going through our mind, we can intentionally make changes to these internal sounds, pictures and feelings by turning our attention away from what it is we don’t want. You can stop thinking about something as easily as you can turn your eyes away from an object. If you are looking at something you don’t want to look at, at anytime you can simply decide to look away, the same holds true with your thoughts, you can just simply ‘think away.’ You can take your focus from one subject and give your attention to another.
If I think of some distressing memory or difficult thought and decide to turn deliberately away, saying, ‘ No, I don’t want to think of that;’ by so doing I have chosen and caused the termination of that ‘brain-event.’ The only difference with the mental action involved here is that the choice to think of something different is a conscious decision from inside of me instead of me reacting to some random external event.
What Do You Want?
Nature abhors a vacuum, so the act of deciding to choose what you want to think about is the first step in controlling your mind, because to stop thinking about one thought, we must have another thought ready to take its place. Ideally the thoughts to be replaced are thoughts and ideas regarding something that you want to own or achieve in your life, to realize something other than what you are getting.
Make It A Habit
A new action we want is often accomplished slowly and with repetition. Your thought habits are the result of your mind persistently doing those things that it has been set to do many times over. By constant repetition, the habit of avoiding thoughts you do not want may be established just as easily as any other, and with no more effort because habit, good or bad, is only an action often repeated. Repetition results in a greater know how, and it may be continued until at last it is performed without conscious effort or attention.
Repetition also will increase the likelihood of repetition, that means the more you do something, the more likely you are to do something. If you have the right predetermined thought ready to slot into your mind at the right time, the more likely you are to have the right predetermined thought ready to slot into your mind at the right time.
Is It Really That Simple?
No matter how much you may have heard or read about something new, there is no secret, no copyright and no patent to controlling your thinking. Controlled thinking can easily be practised the same as any other skill.
Like any skill you want to have, you do not know much about it until you are shown and are using the tools required to do the job, and by using them, you will learn certain details that cannot be verbally communicated. So go ahead and decide what you want to think about first and whenever thoughts arise you do not want, practise ‘thinking away’.
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“We choose our joys and sorrows long before we experience
them.”
– Khalil Gibran
Our life works and can be full of joy when we make effective
choices. Our life can be full of sorrow if we make ineffective
choices.
Chooser vs. Victim
As a child, choices were made for me and I had little power
over what happened to me. This is normal for children, but
when we take this attitude as adults I call it being a “victim”
The opposite of being a victim is to be “The Chooser”
The concept of choice is remarkable, and that we have
choices I consider to be a fact. Though in my life, I’ve
forgotten this fact many times when I was impulsive or
reactive.
I find it challenging to take responsibility for my failures and pain as being the result of my own choices. I want to blame myboss, my ex-wife, the other driver, my parents; and for awhile I did.
I’ve had many wake-up calls that acting out of ignorance or
impulse doesn’t absolve me of responsibility for making a
bad choice.
When I was sixteen, a new driver, and got a ticket for making
a U-turn across a double-yellow line I told the cop honestly
that I didn’t know it was against the law, and felt it grossly
unfair that he ticketed me anyway.
I fought the ticket in traffic court and lost. My only
defense was “I didn’t know! I didn’t mean to break the law!”
The judge told me ignorance was not an excuse for breaking
the law. That was one of my first wake-up calls that as an
adult, I would be held accountable for my choices even if
they were unconscious. Scary thought.
We live in a victim culture. It’s usually the other guy’s
fault that we go to war, get into a car accident, lose our
money in stocks, get a divorce. While victim-hood might make
us feel better and in the right, it also makes us helpless
and perpetuates our problems.
The Law of Attraction
What do you want? A fulfilling life and relationship? A
loving family? Success in your work? Peace in the world?
I’ve learned that to get what you want you must BE THE
CHOOSER.
Being the chooser means taking the initiative to create what
you want, taking full responsibility for your outcomes, and
making your choices mindful of their long-term consequences.
There is a law of the universe as powerful as the law of
gravity that helps choosers and brings suffering on victims.
It’s called the “Law of Attraction.” Just like “what goes up
must come down;” “what is inside shows up on the outside,”
“energy follows attention,” and “what you believe you can
achieve.”
If you believe you don’t have a choice, you won’t.
If you shove responsibility for your choices and outcomes
outside of yourself, the law of attraction will try to teach
you to take responsibility by repeating the lesson over and
over until you get it.
This is the origin of crime, war, and most other sources of
human suffering.
I want to be happy and fulfilled. I want you to be happy and
fulfilled. I’ve learned that happiness comes from within, by
taking responsibility as an adult for my choices and
outcomes. I’ve learned that I need to be “The Chooser” in my
life and my heartfelt desire is that I can inspire you to be
The Chooser as well.
Be The Chooser
We have the knowledge and technology to create a wonderful life for ourselves and society for our children. Most of our
social problems, such as crime, war, poverty, violence, disease, divorce, homelessness, and more, is the result of ineffective choices. Unfortunately, these social problems will continue as long as people believe they don’t have a choice about them.
Choosers know what they want and how to get it.
In charge of their lives, Choosers take responsibility for
what happens. Being a Chooser takes a certain amount of
confidence and effort, but anyone can be one! Being The
Chooser means taking initiative for your outcomes: you are
in charge of creating what you want in life. You do not
restrict yourself to what or who chooses you.
Very often, we are not aware of the range of choices available
to us. We are often unaware of our power to choose, and of the
true power of our choices. We might make choices unconsciously,
reactively or impulsively. We might be unaware of the long-term
consequences of our choices.
A.I.M. To Be The Chooser
Step 1: Be AWARE that you have choices
You are never stuck! You always have choices, even if you
don’t know what your choices are. Don’t allow impulse or
lack of information to result in a poor choice.
Step 2: IDENTIFY your choices
Always assume there are more choices than you are aware of.
Seek to identify a variety of the choices available to you,
mindful that “you don’t know what you don’t know.” Identify
productive choices and don’t settle for unproductive
choices.
Step 3: MAKE productive choices
Use all the information available to you to make the best
choice possible to achieve the outcome you desire. Evaluate
a choice based upon the likely long-term consequences of
that choice.
If you want to be the Chooser, here are some things you have
control over and can DO:
- BE CREATIVE: Seek new ideas and opportunities beyond the
immediate past and present
- BE A RISK TAKER: Accept rejection and failure as part of
life, and don’t take it personally
- BE ASSERTIVE: Ask for what you want, and say “no” to what
you don’t want
- BE PROACTIVE: Don’t merely react to events, or habitually
wait for things to happen
- BE GOAL-ORIENTED: Clearly define and vigorously pursue your goals
- ASSUME ABUNDANCE: Believe there will always be plenty of
opportunities and resources
- BE POSITIVE: Always anticipate success
“Your life is the sum result of all the choices you make,
both consciously and unconsciously.
If you can control the process of choosing, you can take
control of all aspects of your life.
You can find the freedom that comes from being in
charge of yourself.”
– Senator Robert F. Bennett (R-Utah)
©2005 by Relationship Coaching Network / All rights reserved
http://www.relationshipcoachingnetwork.org
David Steele, MA, LMFT is Founder and CEO of Relationship Coaching Institute, and author of the upcoming book “Conscious Dating: Finding the Love of Your Life in Today’s World” to be
published October 2005, from which this article is excerpted.
For more information visit http://www.ConsciousDating.com
If you have dandruff, it could be the result of an increase in stress. Also known as seborrheic dermatitis, this dandruff can be caused by negative events such as losing your job, or even a positive event like getting married! Fortunately, there are some excellent treatments on the market for dandruff, which respond well with very little attention, so it is easy to keep under control regardless of your stress level. If you have tried hair regrowth or have thinning hair, dandruff certainly won’t help this either. When you have dandruff, scaling of the scalp results in visible flakes of skin, especially along your hairline. Psoriasis is sometimes confused with dandruff. This is a chronic skin disease with a fairly prominent scaling.
The only way to determine if you have psoriasis or dandruff is to visit your doctor before you try to treat it. Obviously, psoriasis will have more scaling involved than dandruff. The unfortunate part about dandruff is that it is fairly common, and it is not known what causes it. Of course, if you have male pattern baldness, the chances of you having dandruff will diminish.
The best way to combat dandruff is using a shampoo with the active ingredient pyrithione zinc. This active ingredient is found in such products as Denorex, Head and Shoulders, and Pert Plus Dandruff Shampoo. You can also get excellent results with a product called Selsun Blue. It has an active ingredient called selenium sulfide which is equally effective but can be more irritating to the skin. If you apply the shampoo twice a week and leave it in your hair for three to five minutes before rinsing, this gives the ingredients time to work. If you are trying to encourage hair regrowth these products can be used in conjunction with other hair loss remedies. It is important to continue using the dandruff shampoo even when it clears up as this will suppress any further flaking. Remember to take measures that will minimize the amount of stress in your life as this will encourage proper hair regrowth and reduce the chances of you having dandruff.
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There are a lot of new, dramatically effective procedures in cosmetic dentistry. There are remarkable new products and technical procedures that have advanced recently to make dental services affordable and possible to more people than ever before. If you wish to have your teeth repaired, now you can have the treatment at an affordable cost.
At present, cosmetic dentistry is able to brighten, fill-in, shade, align and even replace teeth with the use of remarkable techniques and materials. When you have a healthy smile and attractive teeth, all the other benefits will follow. Improving your self-image encourages you to maintain good dental hygiene and at the same time improves your overall health.
There are so many dentistry procedures that are affordable. One is touch-ups. The yellow and brown stains and the white spots can be improved with touch-ups. The asymmetrical gum contours and uneven edges in your teeth can really make your smile look terrible. Simple corrective cosmetic dentistry procedures can change it dramatically.
The asymmetrical soft tissue contours can easily be corrected in just a single office visit. This requires minimal local anesthetic. Frequently, the symmetrical appearance of your gums can be as much as 50%of the total cosmetic value of your front teeth. This can be seen in the smiles of the young patients where their gums are displayed a lot when they are talking and smiling.
The super dark and super white spots can be reduced within one office visit as well. The acidic-micro-abrasion scrubs are affordable and helpful in clearing these problems. These unattractive spots can be safely removed with just one visit to your dentist using this technique, and the good thing is that it does not require the use of anesthesia.
The easiest way to a dazzling smile is through teeth whitening. This can be done at home or at a dental office with tray based bleaching products. If whitening is done in the office, it’s easier and more effective than doing it at home. Also important is the condition of the teeth and if the whitening used comes from a good brand name.
There are dentists who give their patients bleaching kits that they can take home. These kits usually work faster than the ones bought over the counter because they contain stronger amounts of whitening agents. Also the trays are custom fitted which helps to avoid gum irritation from excess whitener resting on the gums.
Cosmetic dentistry has dramatically changed the way teeth are improved. With the arrival of newer and more efficient treatments to whiten teeth, our smiles can now look (and feel) better than ever before. Cosmetic dentistry procedures are the best help in keeping up a great looking, healthy smile.
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Hair threading is becoming more and more popular as individuals search for a new way to remove hair. The process can be done at home if you would like to or you can get a much better procedure done through a salon. For those that are looking for a new method of hair removal, besides all the waxing and the shaving, hair threading may be the answer for you. Although it is about as painful as waxing, it can help to remove the fine hair that grows over your body.
You will use normal sewing thread to get the job done. The hair will be removed from the root. For an at home method, try this:
Use two feet of sewing thread. Knot the ends to make a large circle.
Hold it in both hands and wind it about ten times until it looks like a bow tie. The wound up portion needs to be in the middle.
Now, spread the fingers of one hand so that the wound portion moves to the other hand. Practice moving it back and forth for a few minutes.
Alternate the fingers that you move, spread and close.
Practice first with your leg hairs until you learn how to do it well.
Prop one leg up while you sit on a chair. Place the wound side of the thread on one side of the hair and lay the thread from the opposite end around both sides of the hair.
Move your fingers as you have been practicing quickly. The hair is captures and pulled from the root.
It is often wise to learn how to do hair threading by watching someone else do it. So, perhaps you should invest in a salon procedure the first time so that you can learn. Yes, it hurts a little and yes it is going to need to be done several times, but the process is one way for you to easily fight back unwanted hair. Once you learn how to do it, you will do it better. And, since there are no real risks of using hair threading there is no reason not to enjoy it.
As a beauty consultant Nicola is always evaluating new products. Visit her site at http://www.epilator.info for resources, views and information about home hair removal.
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